Self Confidence

As I have been more active on social media and taking more pictures, I realised that as I took these photos of myself I would analyse everything. Every little detail about myself and what other people might think when they look at these photos.

In my head these thoughts of other people would go like this:

Oo look at her nose, it looks huge in this angle! Look at those under eyes, does she know what concealer is?!

Her lips aren’t even, what on earth is she thinking!

Has she not noticed this imperfection? Or that her hair looks weird..

These are just a few examples, every time I look at photos if myself I am so self critical. It got to the point where I was even searching for different cosmetic procedures I could have to make me feel better about myself.

I am in no way shape or form not saying that they are the wrong answer, because it’s not. But for me I know I can have an addictive personality. Once I start changing features of myself, I’ll just look out for more. I’m not saying that I’ll never get anything done, because who knows. But with the power of social media and how people are portrayed, I definitely fall into the trap of feeling self conscious.

Social media can be a beautiful thing, but also turning ugly quite quickly. So many ‘influencers’ promote a look, a body type, or even hair that for many people is so unrealistic. I put influencers in quotation marks because I feel sometimes they aren’t influencing their following in a good way, they are putting people under the influence that by having i.e. this body type or luscious long hair that you can be like them. When actually we can’t work out all the time as our schedules are packed, we can’t afford cosmetic procedures  and we don’t have a hairstylist who can style our hair everyday.

For me, I definitely can be under the influence of wanting to attain a certain something just from constantly see an ‘influencer’ on my social media. I know the easiest thing is to unfollow them, but once you’ve seen it it’s very difficult to un-see it. When we scroll through social media, looking through the endless accounts of beautiful people in beautiful places I know that sometimes I, for a fraction of a second, would love to be in their position. A beautiful body in a beautiful place. But it’s so unrealistic.

Don’t get me wrong, I love creating content and being on social media. So rather than letting these ‘influencers’ influence me in a negative ways I simply don’t give them a second thought. I know I’ll never be them, and I am perfectly happy in being myself. We all have things we don’t like about ourselves, but for me instead of forking out thousands of pounds which I definitely don’t have spare, right now I’m going to work on embracing them. Rather than looking in a mirror and pointing out all the bad things, instead pointing out all the positive things.

When scrolling through social media it’s not all real. And it’s so easy to get caught up in the fantasy as to what people’s appearance and lives look like through a snapshot of their day. We are all beautiful beings and each with our own path to take. Comparing ourselves to others is futile, nothing good will ever come of it. Rather than wishing I was someone else – a beautiful body in a beautiful place – I am perfectly happy being who I am. We all have our own journeys to take.

*Be yourself, everyone else is taken*

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